Isn't it Funny. . .
... that we always seem to grow apart as time goes by? The thing that has brought this topic to my attention is the musical. During the rehearsals leading up to musical and during the musical itself, the group became extremely tight. You could talk to anyone in the cast and it wouldn't feel weird. It was a sort of mutual understanding that musical was musical and everyone belonged. But now that musical is over, things will eventually go back to the way things were before.
That's just how things work I guess.
The people in the musical came from all different groups (as segregated as that may sound, it's very true). During the musical some barriers were broken and some became good friends, but for the most part, the participants will return to their respective groups. You may say hi to them a couple times in the hall and go on your way. Soon, the relations degrade and you don't have the musical there to connect you all together again. I find this extremely frustrating and disappointing. Despite the main reason behind musicals (putting on a performance) I found myself joining it due to the social aspect. It is always spoken of as a great experience for everyone in it. And it truly is during the time. However, it's also very bittersweet. It's understood that the group doesn't stick together for long afterwards.
Sure there'll be musical parties where we'll all join together and reminisce about the good times we've had, but they're just that: times for remembering. After the parties have ended, the previously unknown to you will once more become unknown. Musicals are truly great experiences. It's unfortunate that they become only memories so soon afterwards.
Charlie.
That's just how things work I guess.
The people in the musical came from all different groups (as segregated as that may sound, it's very true). During the musical some barriers were broken and some became good friends, but for the most part, the participants will return to their respective groups. You may say hi to them a couple times in the hall and go on your way. Soon, the relations degrade and you don't have the musical there to connect you all together again. I find this extremely frustrating and disappointing. Despite the main reason behind musicals (putting on a performance) I found myself joining it due to the social aspect. It is always spoken of as a great experience for everyone in it. And it truly is during the time. However, it's also very bittersweet. It's understood that the group doesn't stick together for long afterwards.
Sure there'll be musical parties where we'll all join together and reminisce about the good times we've had, but they're just that: times for remembering. After the parties have ended, the previously unknown to you will once more become unknown. Musicals are truly great experiences. It's unfortunate that they become only memories so soon afterwards.
Charlie.
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How true, how true said the sour kangaroo:(
Great post, and I have thought about this as well (I think we may have talked about it too). It's like so many things in life where people just drift apart because of the norms we are used to. Maybe we can make an effort this year to keep some semblance of friendship with some people we met through the musical, rebel a little!
I do have one comment however. After both the muscials that I have played in I made connections (specifically with fellow trumpeters and band members) that did not break after the musical, as I'm sure you did too. It is these that we have to be thankful for and cherish them for what they are. The musical is so much more than a performance, it is people and connections.
In the words of a teacher at the Gray "You will learn way more from the play then you will in any class in your life". How's that for a great education system ;)
Good post, Charlie.
I honestly think it is impossible to stay connected with everyone. People who are here to touch our lives with grace today will not always be here. They will go away, or we will go away. Perhaps life will change in such ways as to make it impossible for them to give us forever what they can give us now. We keep expecting something permanent to develop from what is by nature temporary.
People move in and out of our lives, and we move in and out of their lives. We need what happens in those relationships, no matter how long or short they may be. Many of the people who have helped us to keep our lives manageable are no longer in sight, but what they did is forever a special gift.
I believe that temporariness is an essential ingredient of our human incompleteness. Many relationships, by their very nature, are temporary. It is essential for us to be able to say "good-bye" to temporary relationships that have obviously come to an end, instead of trying to stretch them out into an artificial permanency. Sometimes we are caught in a mindset that says a relationship must be permanent in order to have meaning.
Don't get me wrong, there are some people who can claim a life-long friend. And, I would be the first to say that it is a rare treasure.
Change & temporariness (is that a word?) is built into us. Every seven years we complete a cycle in which every cell in our bodies is replaced with a new cell. This is symbolic of what happens to us mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. There are stages of life in which we become different from what we were in earlier stages. Sometimes we are more different from some past self than we are from other people. Our hopes and dreams change. Sometimes even our weaknesses and strengths change.
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